You can really wonder why I'm blogging and why I've started posting about my feelings on the internet. This website started out as a kind of photo blog just because I wanted to learn blogging. But, honestly, I actually find photo blogs without text pretty boring even if the pictures may be really nice. Not … Continue reading Forget the modesty!
There is saying “Treat others the way you want to be treated”. In love relations this seems safe and easy, and you will probably get what you want in return. But imagine if you act completely unaware of the other's wishes. Then you might become too selfish, simply a jerk. No one wants to be like that, … Continue reading The language of love
Some say unrequited love is real love but I can’t disagree more. Some say the less reciprocation there is, the more desire we have! I do believe they are horribly wrong. I would argue, however, that love without response is like an important question without an answer. I have been in love when I haven’t … Continue reading Reciprocated love
In the Swedish everyday language there are several words for love, kind of reflecting the different stages of the “love relation process”. The first stage, when we are falling in love, is called “förälskad” and may translate into English as “enamoured”, or “amorous”, or simply “in love with”. I am into research and maybe I … Continue reading Falling in love or enamoured hope!
I find love and expectations difficult and it doesn’t seem to get easier with age. I am a romantic and think that practical or comfortable love is boring, but what are realistic expectations? Does it mean I can forget a great love, forget that person who makes it feel like bumblebees are buzzing in my … Continue reading Love and expectations.
Love is not finding someone to live with, it’s finding the one you don’t want to live without! I tend to learn stepwise. Sudden insights make me understand. This quote on love made me realize that I have been chasing love the wrong way. I am divorced since long, and am ashamed of not succeeding in the marriage. … Continue reading Without love!
The fourth season with my boat is over. It's been a great boating season, the Stockholm archipelago is really amazing and discovering it by motorboat suits me perfectly. The boat has everything needed for a holiday and with a reasonably large crew you have comfort. With just two on board, it is pure luxury! It … Continue reading The winter rest has begun.
You, all my faithful followers know that I have found a new way of life, I commute to work on my new electric bike! Cycling has been fine so far, but now with autumn comes the challenges. The temperature has been really low a few mornings and it is raining more and more. Luckily, I'm … Continue reading With autumn comes the rain!
Electric bicycle, it's cheating! Ever since I started commuting to work on an electric pedal bike, I have encountered prejudice. The cheating accusations kick off my guilt and shame issues, and I get sad whenever I proudly tell someone that I have started commuting by electric bike, and hear that it is cheating. How's that … Continue reading Righteousness and prejudice!
Adam, my youngest son used to tell me I was thinking too much. Nowadays he is also a thinker. I wonder if it is bad to think too much. What is too much? Does it apply to all kinds of thoughts? Isn't thinking a human tool that generally is far too little used? Okay, I … Continue reading I think, that’s how I am!
I regularly travel by bus to work. It's nice to sit and think while I look through the bus window and listen to the sounds around me. By the way, smartphone headphones just fall out of my ears. It is convenient to ride the bus but I do not get much exercise. Regular job commuting … Continue reading To exercise, or not!
It is wonderful in the early summer when the roses bloom, but the second flowering in late summer is also lovely. I myself have for a long time tried to bring about a second flowering in my own life. I know, you should be careful about whining and appearing unsuccessful in social media, but this … Continue reading The second bloom!
We live in a time of security mania. Taking it safe before the uncertain seems to be an increasingly common mantra. But, putting yourself at risk does not necessarily have to be fatal. Lack of trust in a relationship can lead to an awkward feeling of insecurity. But, in order to build trust, we need … Continue reading Fear is the new safe!
Trust and confidence are essential in close relations with love. Consider the many oddities we humans are devoted to in order to avoid closeness. Do you know the expression "alone is strong"? What a nonsense! Alone is afraid of intimacy. The other day I had the confidence to watch the marina. In the boat club … Continue reading Trust and confidence
The need for shopping malls in the Stockholm area is met, the need for housing is not. In 1995, the situation was quite different when a large car sales firm's premises were transformed into Stinsen's shopping center. It was even expanded and reopened in 2009, and the trade flourished. Now, all but a few shops … Continue reading New times, new needs!
You may have noticed that I have added English to my website. I know, I don’t have a lot of readers but sometimes the website statistics reveal viewers from UK and the States! So, I thought I might go international and start blogging in English. By the way, why blog at all? Why do people … Continue reading Going international!
I needed a new destination and went for a walk in “Bergianska trädgården”, a botanical garden by the Stockholm University. Some early flowers were in bloom. The garden promised a wonderful flower splendor closer to the summer. I think I have been in the garden some thirty years ago. Now, I’ll be back!
Min far är död. Med tanke på hur han levde sitt liv blev han gammal. Arvet är viktigt för livslängden men man måste troligen även ta hand om sig. Vad jag vet så är det lite oklart vilket arv jag har. Farfar drack för mycket och morfar dog i det finska fortsättningskriget. Även min far … Continue reading Till minne – In memory!
För en hel del år sedan, när jag var yngre och seglade med Anders H-båt eller med lite större, hyrda båtar, var det självklart att jag själv skulle ha en båt när jag blev stor. Det är en hel del år sedan jag blev ganska stor. Någon gång under åren hade självklarheten med en egen … Continue reading Värsta båtsommaren! – What a boating summer!
I förrgår var midsommarafton. I år firade jag med min syster och vår mor på en liten ö i inre skärgården. Med var också systerns son och hennes karl samt grannar på ön. Det har blivit lite si och så med midsommartraditionerna men vi hade sill, öl och nubbe. Den gamla modern agerade midsommarstång. Det … Continue reading Midsommarfest! – Midsummer party!