Whenever we want to communicate, we are usually anxious to be understood and to understand. Why do we overlook this when we try to communicate love? Is inner fear hindering us, or are there simply different languages of love? Do we talk past each other because we have different languages? Do you think your partner … Continue reading Communicating love
Trust is the foundation of love, and we can only truly love someone that we can trust. Love by itself isn’t enough, and really does not conquer all. I now know that I have to trust the one I Love. To have a healthy love relationship, I must have the guts to believe in my … Continue reading Love and trust.
I am rarely down town, even though I live and work near Stockholm city. This Christmas and New Year I had a little longer leave. It has been a wonderful vacation! I even had the opportunity "to do the town". Me and my lovely sweetheart had lunch at Medelhavsmuseet, the Museum of Mediterranean and Near Eastern … Continue reading Doing Stockholm!
Very much happens by chance or at random. Admittedly, the right conditions need to prevail, but chance mostly has a big impact. Being lucky seems necessary! When it comes to love, I think we create the conditions ourselves. Brusquely expressed, I lost faith in love about six months ago. I was well on my way … Continue reading Chance and love.
You can really wonder why I'm blogging and why I've started posting about my feelings on the internet. This website started out as a kind of photo blog just because I wanted to learn blogging. But, honestly, I actually find photo blogs without text pretty boring even if the pictures may be really nice. Not … Continue reading Forget the modesty!
There is saying “Treat others the way you want to be treated”. In love relations this seems safe and easy, and you will probably get what you want in return. But imagine if you act completely unaware of the other's wishes. Then you might become too selfish, simply a jerk. No one wants to be like that, … Continue reading The language of love
Some say unrequited love is real love but I can’t disagree more. Some say the less reciprocation there is, the more desire we have! I do believe they are horribly wrong. I would argue, however, that love without response is like an important question without an answer. I have been in love when I haven’t … Continue reading Reciprocated love
In the Swedish everyday language there are several words for love, kind of reflecting the different stages of the “love relation process”. The first stage, when we are falling in love, is called “förälskad” and may translate into English as “enamoured”, or “amorous”, or simply “in love with”. I am into research and maybe I … Continue reading Falling in love or enamoured hope!
It is really not sustainable to give up the belief in love. I am absolutely convinced that love even can last a long time. The vast majority of my friends do live with love in long-term relationships. Yes, I know it may not always have been a dance on roses, but still, they stick together … Continue reading Sustainable love
I find love and expectations difficult and it doesn’t seem to get easier with age. I am a romantic and think that practical or comfortable love is boring, but what are realistic expectations? Does it mean I can forget a great love, forget that person who makes it feel like bumblebees are buzzing in my … Continue reading Love and expectations.
Love is not finding someone to live with, it’s finding the one you don’t want to live without! I tend to learn stepwise. Sudden insights make me understand. This quote on love made me realize that I have been chasing love the wrong way. I am divorced since long, and am ashamed of not succeeding in the marriage. … Continue reading Without love!
It is wonderful in the early summer when the roses bloom, but the second flowering in late summer is also lovely. I myself have for a long time tried to bring about a second flowering in my own life. I know, you should be careful about whining and appearing unsuccessful in social media, but this … Continue reading The second bloom!
Trust and confidence are essential in close relations with love. Consider the many oddities we humans are devoted to in order to avoid closeness. Do you know the expression "alone is strong"? What a nonsense! Alone is afraid of intimacy. The other day I had the confidence to watch the marina. In the boat club … Continue reading Trust and confidence
Min far är död. Med tanke på hur han levde sitt liv blev han gammal. Arvet är viktigt för livslängden men man måste troligen även ta hand om sig. Vad jag vet så är det lite oklart vilket arv jag har. Farfar drack för mycket och morfar dog i det finska fortsättningskriget. Även min far … Continue reading Till minne – In memory!